Why I Think You Should Blog Already

This is a post for my sister who I’m trying to convince to blog. 

Since it’s her birthday tomorrow, I can’t think of a better gift, than to convince her to blog!

These are all the reasons why I think blogging benefits me and hopefully if you’re reading this and still waiting on the blogging fence it’s a gentle push, shove and kick up the back side to get you started!

Why you should start blogging right now:

Don’t wait till you’re ready these excuses are exactly why you shoukd start without too much thought.

Get out of your comfort zone, growth lies on the other side of fear. 

Blog right now with what you know whether you think you’re an expert or not.

You don’t need anyone’s permission to blog or a blogging license.

You have your own creative license, that you’ve been born with, to do whatever you like.

Blogging makes you gets real with yourself.

Learn to hear your inner voice.

Blogging emphasizes what you like and don’t like, you are more in tune with your self.

It feels good to get things that are important to you off your chest in more than 120 characters.

It goes well with coffee.

It’s a great platform to drum up awareness for a worthy cause.

It’s a great place to clear up misconceptions about things you feel passionate about.

Your blog works while you sleep, meaning some one could be reading it on the other side of the world, while you are unaware and find benefit from it.

Its your platform to voice your opinion on controversial things.

You can talk about awkward things that you would not necessarily talk about.

It’s a place where you want to write down your thoughts and feelings.

It’s an opportunity for others to see your great ideas and for you to share your talent with the world.

It’s a great place to put out something positive into the world .

It’s great if you want to do something productive with your time.

You want to improve your writing skills.

You want to clear out your thoughts.

If you can read it you can write it, meaning many times we come across articles and think ‘man I could’ve wrote that!’ the difference is you didn’t, and some one else did. Don’t let this happen again!

It’s a way to articulate.

It’s therapeutic.

It a place of refuge.

Its a creative release.

It makes you happy.

It’s a journey you can look back on.

It’s your home you can make it the way you want to.

You learn to discipline your time.

You learn to plan and organise your ideas.

When you’re creating something, you don’t feel like you’re wasting time like other social media.

You get to ‘meet’ like minded people which makes you feel that the passion you have is something worth having.

You get to write about things you are passionate about, at length without anyone getting bored, it’s your page you can be as lengthy as you want and not apologise.

You can be who you truly want to be. 

You can learn about new interests (e.g. new language, photography) and develop them, documenting your progress online.

You can get better at writing.

You can make money.

You can make a career out of blogging, freelancing, reviewing, promoting things that you are passionate about.

You can use your blog to build a portfolio on your interest that you hope can lead up to your dream career.

You can blog about anything.

You can blog anywhere.

You can blog anytime.

You can blog in the dark.

You can surround yourself with people who inspire you, who get you, who have similar goals and interests.

You get to challenge yourself to write something new each blog post.

You get to learn more bout yourself

You are building your legacy

If your work benefits one person then job done , if your work benefits only you then job done!

Kids get to see what you’ve been up to during the baby years.

It’s legacy building.

It makes you smarter you have to actually organise your thoughts and lay it out so it’s tangible to read

Its easy to do, you can set up WordPress in less than 30 minutes, download app and you’re good to go. The longest part maybe deciding on a name. Brainstorm now. Go on!

Hope this helps, if you needed that push in why you should blog. Write in the comments what you think my sister should know and how blogging benefits you!

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Making Time When You Have No Time

You know the drill, you have a million and one things to do, and not enough time to do it. Everyday is a constant struggle, to keep on top of your daily chores, it feels like a giant hamster wheel, where you wake up and hit the floor running.

Thirteen hours tick by and you are depleted, by all the things you have had to do, whether it gave you pleasure or not. You sleep and wake up more exhausted from the night before, body in knots, not having slept as well as you had hoped, to only jump back on the wheel.

Repeat this for 20 years, and the prime of your life just passed you by, filled with excuses and exhaustion. I’ve heard this story, repeatedly, across generations, by individuals full of regret, not pursuing passions, that they had wished they had time for. You and I know we are not born for 9-5 slogging. I am born for a higher cause aren’t you?
Well it’s time to shake it up, take the day by the horns and own it. Get more out of your day, squeezing out hours you thought you didn’t have, making up for lost time and living a life worth living.

See below ways I carve out more hours in my day, doing less of the mundane and more things that excite me and reignite my passions.

Write a To Do List

Simple as it may seem – all my tips are as it happens- a day that starts with a to do list can only be a good day. You’ll be more focused, tackling your top priorities first and knocking them out of the park with visor since you get to do what you like once its done.

Write down all your important tasks of the day that you must get done. This clears your mind and unblocks it with new and creative positive thoughts since you don’t need to burden yourself with million and one things to remember.

Don’t have so many things on your to do list have 3-5 things max that you want to get done. The more you have the more stressed you will be that you have too many things to do and you’ll overburden yourself and use up needless time tackling anxiety. Think attainable goals for the day. Happy vibes all around.

Golden Nugget: Have 3- 5 attainable tasks for the day.

 

Plan out your day

Just think, everyone has the same mount of hours in the day, yet some people seem to get more done, even though they have a lot of balls juggling in the air.

The trick is, not to think you don’t have time. You do.  Its just a matter of priorities, act smart with the time you have. Plan wisely the things that you are doing now.

What things are sucking out the excruciating hours of your day, which you can change? Your commute? Your hair dresser? Your car wash? Your grocery? Whatever it is, see how you can change, fix or adapt it.
I know men, who wake up at 7.30am, every weekend, to get their haircut, just so they save an hour of waiting time. Thats not vanity, thats knowing the value of time.

I also know a guy who to avoid 90 minute morning traffic, get out the house at 5.30am, reaching their work an hour early and sleeping in the car as apposed to sleeping at the wheel of slow moving traffic.

I also knew a guy, who went to work 2 hours earlier than when his work started, to avoid congestion charges and traffic. No surprise then, that the two men are related.

I’m not suggesting you go to work early, I mean you can, if you want to be dedicated. But once at the location you can do something with that extra time you have.

  • Join a gym near work,
  • cycle in the park near work,
  • write a book whilst waiting for work,
  • learn a new language whilst waiting for work
  • Go for a walk
  • Grab a bite to eat,
  • Listen to podcasts
  • Listen to audiobook on commute to work
  • Read a book whilst waiting for work
  • Write out a meal planner for the week
  • Make a shopping list from meal plan, save time on mindless shopping

The list is endless, and can take you where ever you want. Point is, you just bought yourself more time on your hands, Bingo!

Golden nugget: Avoid places and busy times, so you dodge waiting and queuing.

 

Automate

Are you a traditionalist? Why do you still have to go to the bank and wait in queues to pay your bills. Every department these days has an online payment system. Save yourself time by using it.Fix up and shape up your time spent in queues, unless you enjoy it of course.

  • Everything is online no more juggling paper and filing it away, you can see your incomings and outgoing all on one page.

 

  • If you’re a forgetful person note down your big expenses, since you don’t want your expenses running out of control, have a sit down and put in reminders, so that you are in sync when money is coming in and out of your account.

 

  • Also have a general idea of how much is your total monthly expenditure, this includes grocery, loans, other monthly commitments. Your monthly outgoings should not exceed your incomings, come on I learnt that much being married to an accountant. This way you’ll always be on top of your money and not have nasty surprises because you let the ball slip out your hand.

 

  • If you don’t know how to do it ask a trusted person to guide you. Once set up you don’t need to do anything. All is taken care of every month, you just need to keep track of it with your eyes and finger tips and not by your feet and carbon miles.

Golden nugget: Automate bills and forgerabourit- after putting in a fool proof system of course.

Potential time saved 1 hour

Have a Routine

It’s a bit like automating, saves you time, since your daily tasks, are like you’re on auto pilot. You can perform them, with our eyes closed.

 

  • If you have kids you know what I mean, the nagging will never stop but when the kids know the drill there is no surprises when mom is so shrill- wow that rhymed. They know what is expected of them, the little dough eyed souls oblige, because you have a plan, with charts, stickers and rewards.

 

  • If you don’t have kids, congratulations! You can watch the news in the morning, have a breakfast, a shower and comb your hair. Whatever your ritual is in the morning, time yourself and see if everyday you are rushing or you are at ease. If you’re rushing and running out the door as apposed to whistling out the door, you need to fix it.

 

  • Reduce screen time whether it be on the phone computer tv if this is where all your time is warping away limit yourself to 30 minutes at the end of the day.

 

  • Get rid of mediocre game and social media apps that beg for your attention. You can’t afford it with your time, you’re too busy, building yourself in being awesome.

 

  • Wake up 5 minutes – not two hours like my friend above – come on you owe it to yourself. 

 

  • Set out your clothes the night before, this reduces crucial decision making time in the morning. Have your clothes ironed and laid out ready to slip on and look awesome.

 

  • I would even go a step further and think way ahead at the buying process. Only buy clothes that go together, when you choose pieces make sure to have an outfit in mind, so you quickly can put things together

Golden Nugget: Build a morning routine, an evening routine, a bedtime routine a routine about having routines. You get the picture. You’re not boring, you’re just doing things, that you like, and that work for you, repeatedly. Simples.

 

Potential time saved an 2 hours

Outsource

If the washing, grocery and other mundane tasks are sucking away your energy and time give it some one else to do, if you have the means. I hate ironing and cleaning the bathrooms its the bain of my life so those two things I happily outsource. The list of things to outsource though is as long as your mind can stretch

  • Have someone help you with your weekly cleaning challenges
  • Have your clothes ironed and delivered to your house
  • Have you’re groceries delivered
  • Have your meals planned out and ingredients sent out
  • Have a cook make your food
  • Have a babysitter come in one or two hours a week so you can get things done
  • Have your car washed at your door step
  • Have a tutor for your kids

Golden nugget: Outsource mundane tasks that you hate to bring some sunshine and bounce back into your life.

Potential time saved 2 hours

Delegate

I used to be the sacrificial mom, juggling home and school, groceries, after school clubs. Having two children, who were finishing school two hours apart, when school was a 25 minute drive away, was not nice.

Then with the birth of my third child, breastfeeding, sleep less nights and all the above I felt like a ping pong, rushing housework and always on the road picking and dropping the kids.

I was a grumpy, uptight, no fun mom, running a tight ship. Always snapping at my kids, because we need to be somewhere, and do something, before it was too late.

Something had to change, I had to change, I couldn’t do it all alone. I shouldn’t think that have to.

My husband stepped in and shared the school drop offs, so I wasn’t on the road three times a day. This was a huge relief. It meant that, he had to wake up an hour earlier and reach work an hour earlier. But hey partners in crime, partners in time, right?

Let go of the guilt, if you’re anything like me, don’t try to do everything by yourself. Delegate tasks, that you know other members of the family can do. Like, I don’t give the husband breastfeeding, but I do, give him nappy changing. If you’re kids are old enough, rope them in also!

  • Give out chores to kids such as making beds, taking out the garbage, washing dishes, putting clothes away, hanging out laundry etc
  • Give tasks out to partner picking up daily things like bread, milk on way from home saves me an additional trip with one or three kids in tow.
  • Carpool school pick up, drop offs with neighbours to reduce the time spent on the road

Golden nugget: You are not a sacrificial lamb, repeat, you are not a sacrificial lamb. Share out the tasks.

Potential time Saved 1 hour

 

Now I just reclaimed several hours of my day and week so that I can dedicate and focus on self development, growth and progress on my passions. How do you squeeze out every hour of your day?  Let me know in the comments below. Happy living!

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Urgency of Mindful Living

We live in a fast paced time, full of stimuli, comfort and ease. There has never been a time like what we are living in now. With information at our finger tips, whether it be useful or not, we have access to it.

The sheer amount of information, we are bombarded with, day in day out, is energy consuming. Text messages, phone calls, Whatsapp, Skype, video messages, snaps, gifs, pictures, tv, radio, music all this abstract information that seeps into our lives, our minds, our subconscious being.

Then there’s Facebook, Twitter, Instagram desperately seeking our attention and time, demanding we be ‘present’ in the social media world. If you are offline for over 24 hours, alarm bells are ringing, people start to panic, something has happened to you! You could just be having a bad day or presumably busy, but if you are offline you are not connected, you are not even alive, some would assume.

You have to be ‘seen’ on media having a presence, always posting, performing, to be known as doing something successful. We live in an artificial reality of superficial frivolity. Showing all the frills of a highly edited airbrushed life, far from angst and struggle, no blips or bloopers.

I have started to turn away from all of this, as I can see, not only is it damaging my self, it’s also negatively impacting the eyes that watch me, my children. With every little moment, they have learnt to reach for my phone, trying to capture everything, rather than actually live the moment and have fun like no ones watching.

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How was it when we didn’t have phones and we didn’t have camera’s attached to our hands?

No one was really interested in what we ate in the morning.

Were we not living? Were we not having fun? Were we not successful?

I would argue we were more focused on our goals and mindful of the people around us. We could hold a decent length of conversation without being disturbed by noisy notifications by messages that were one consonant long.

We had childhoods that didn’t involve videoing everything that we did. Did our parents love us any less?

Were we always incessantly concerned about what others were doing throughout their day?

Our society is obsessed with the lives of the successful, be it socialites, celebrities, sport stars, YouTubers. Anybody can be famous, but what are they famous for? What are you willing to lose by being famous? Your real friends for millions of fake friends? Your identity? Your privacy? Your time?

Its time we reclaim our privacy, reevaluating our sense of being yourself for yourself, not seeking others comments and approval. To be lost in your thoughts and not have to share every brain fart with the world hoping it will go viral.

Silence the noise and the information overload and get in touch with your inner voice, it is being muted by this constant news feed and by the ‘like’ driven posts.

This mindless interaction with information needs to stop. Social media is making us over stimulated, to the point where it desensitises us to the sensation of disgust, shock and the power to act. The news feed that we scroll through often contains many devastating images we can’t bare to witness. We scroll past it fast because we cannot see it a second longer, we scroll and we scroll, till we get to something more appetising, something that makes us feel good or numbs our brain into feeling anything. But what of the disturbing picture, does that no longer exist? It’s still there, people are still suffering, but we don’t want to deal with that, we just want the cheap thrills and frills.

The creeping feeling of societies numbness, of not being shocked by what we see and read, is very disturbing, we are being disarmed of our voice. If we have no empathy towards each other, how can we stand up for one another? Its time to stop. Its time to stop this, with urgency and reflect who is this hurting? Those people are suffering physically but our heart is already dead!

 

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Being mindful, takes care of not just your outer beauty and aesthetics, but the true beauty that is neglected by social media, which needs the most amount of work and attention, your inner self.

The care you can give to yourself, no one else can. Listening to your inner most thoughts, you will always be true to yourself and not get swept up with any current hype. Regularly check in on yourself and question your actions and intentions, how is it developing you, are you going in a direction you want to.

Its time to have theses questions with yourself, put the hand break on heedlessness because the reality is, we will all die, and as morbid as it seems, how do you want to remembered. If you want to be remembered at all, live an epic life and leave behind a legacy. Work on it, not for other people’s praise, but so that your work, that you carved away at during your life, can be carried on once you are gone.

Make sure you are benefiting society, and humanity and not hindering it by going along like a lost sheep, because even lost sheeps are part of the problem. By shutting off your brain and letting others decide on how life should be is a big problem. Stand up and be counted, make sure you are at the table, make life decisions.

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Being Mindless

You may say, stop being so uptight, it doesn’t hurt anyone really. We’re just having fun, living in the moment, not thinking about tomorrow, yolo and all.

Who are you fooling? Are you living the moment by taking hundred selfies so you can capture the light, the angle, minus all the people? Are you enjoying the sight and smells of the place? Are you failing to hold eyes with the little child who watches you do all these things?

Chilling fact is whether we have children or not, we fail to see that we are all connected, and our behaviour effects the society, the community the neighbourhood we live in whether we want to accept it or not.

Social media is so huge and so fast, that it doesn’t take a day for something to go viral, which means the whole world knows about something, be it a message, a thought, an idea good or bad, we have greater influence over people more than we think to take responsibility for.

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Start now…

Stop and reclaim that beating heart and do not let it die in the hands of social media.

Wake up and thank the powers of be that you are waking up to other day.

Wake up and be thankful that you have been given another taste of life, what will you do with it?

Wake up and think that what things can make this day great for you, for the people around you?

What can I do that can make my yesterday more better?

It can be as simple as I will smile at every person that I go past today.

I will keep my calm with my kids.

I will make an effort to get to know my neighbours.

Cut out the noise, don’t always feel the need to fill up your head with something. Just breathe and be. It might feel awkward and even meaningless at first. But the very reason why you feel it is awkward, meaningless and time consuming is exactly why you need it. You qualify, so just do it!

Make breakfast, that in itself is mindful, instead of grabbing and going, make it yourself.

Already make breakfast? Ok hot shot, try making it with no white noise, just be in the moment of making breakfast and now think how grateful you are at having food of your own choosing.

Wash the dishes and be thankful that you have a family to feed and you have for in your bellies be in the moment without having a million other things going on. be thankful for the clean running water you have.

Put your phone away, eat your nutritious food, this a opportunity to be one with your self, have little one to one with your inner thoughts, who is being shoved to the back of the line.

  • Reintroduce yourself to yourself it might seem awkward because you have neglected yourself so long, talk to yourself you’ve been waiting to hear from you. You now have centre stage and no one is watching you, you can be free to think and develop how you like.
  • Do you like who you are and if you don’t why not? Tell yourself you’re amazing and you have so much value to give. Be your own cheerleader, you don’t need anyone else to tell you how unique you are, and how much you matter, the 100+ likes can wait.
  • Care for others, help others, yes think about your well-being but don’t be self absorbed. Facebook, Twitter and all the other social platforms promote the ‘me me me’ generation. Hey look at what I’m doing, what I’m wearing, what I’m enjoying, its all doing but not actually doing much.
  • How about you take care of someone and not tell a soul, now that is really caring for that person, genuinely and also taking care of your mental health, because that buzz of helping someone can not be told, only be felt. Word.

 

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What mindful living looks like?

Once you become mindful you start being more aware of your surroundings.

You are more intune with yourself.

You are more aware of what you see, read, hear, watch and witness. You live with intent and purpose. You are mindful or what your kids watch, eat, see and hear.

You are more sensitive to others, you are more open to others. You value peoples time and not their likes. You cherish relations and not fleeting thrills.

Well once you become mindful you realise the power in yourself and not in others. You reclaim your voice. You become activists, humanists, vocalists. Reclaim your inner worth and the gift you have that you want to share with the world without being glory hunters.

You seek to be a positive influence on people with everyone you meet. You echo oneness with the universe and unity with all. You pick up litter, you buy a hybrid, and go paperless. 

Ok maybe not all that, thats wishful thinking, but its a start, to a life long journey of mindful living. The point being the list is endless.

So do you unplug yourself?  Which pill do you take the red or blue pill? Its your call.

 

 

 

 

 

5 Easy Ways to Kick Ass at Resolutions.

Happy 2017! A new year, a new promise of greater things. You’re all pumped up and have a spring in you step of new beginnings, new habits, new life, new YOU.

The resolution lists are out, they are long, they are crisp and they have us buzzing.

But how to kick ass this 2017?

How to make sure that those resolutions are not a cliche and are not dwindling come February 1st. Take your resolutions on a revolution!

Here are 5 easy ways to kick start and kick ass this year. Here we go…

  1. Create a mantra a song to get you in the mood every morning. It doesn’t have to rhyme or have smart words its just something that keeps you focused. My mantra when I want to pull myself out of a rut and stay positive is sing with my girls. Our song? well its simple and goes like this… “Are we gonna have a good day?” and they shout at me “yes we are!!!”then” Are we gonna be happy? yes we are!!!” and we march out of bed and get our shit together. It really works!
  2. Organise you’re brain. Write down why you are doing what you are doing this is your intention of this new thing that you are trying to achieve. When you have a purpose, an intention and clear goals set out you are more likely to succeed. Keep your brain engaged on why you are doing it and the how will naturally manifest. Jot down things you have to do on your phone or planner so your brain is clear of these lists and things to do this will make you more focused and clearer in your goals.
  3. Work on it everyday. Make your goals big but the steps need to be daily attainable goals. It takes 21 days to build a habit but if you get so daunted by the goal and how big a task it is you are less likely to stick to it. For me on my positive road mindset I say to myself I won’t use negative language. This comes with lots of minor hurdles I can’t be zen straight of the bat its daily things I do to reach that personal goal.
  4. The goal is not the end. In fact the goal is the beginning its a point where you can measure your progress but it doesn’t finish. You have to keep at it if you can do it for 21 days you can do it for 3 months if you can do it for 3 months you can do it 6 months and a year and you continue to push yourself and push yourself.
  5. Tell a friend. When you tell someone of your intentions you are not only being accountable to yourself but you’re being accountable to someone else that you are making a promise that you want to attain something. When they see you going of track, if their a good friend they will call you up on it and veer you back without shaming you and reminding you that everyone has bad days but let the day not become a year.

Those are 5 top ways that I will kick ass this 2017!

Let me know what you intend to do this year and your ways you will make 2017 the year where it all begins and not where it ends.

Be Happy Get Productive

I don’t know about some people but I get really happy when I get things done. That self righteous feeling of ticking a task off of a list is even better than making the list (women you know what I’m talking about). So here are some sure fire ways to do just that get things done and get happy. Enjoy!

1. Wake up early. No, seriously if you really want to get things done, wake up, get out of bed and get stuck into the day early. Real early, like you’re out doing the sun in productivity. My most productive hours of the day are from 6am-8am. The more this is part of your routine you’ll be more and more like a steam engine and be getting through your tasks in no time.

2. Get into ‘the zone’. Open some windows, light some candles, grab a coffee what ever it is that gives you that instant pick me up to kick start your day, taste the fresh crisp air of opportunity and get ready to take lead of the day and do not let the day lead you.

3. Make a list. Prioritise what needs to be done first e.g. bills, meetings, appointments. Plan your day out so that part of the day is allocated to certain tasks. Group your tasks together to save time e.g getting groceries on the way to picking up the kids to school this way you don’t have to go out of your way or make two separate trips. Saving time on these mundane tasks equals more happy time to do things you love. Remember don’t work hard work smart.

4. Prepare for the day the night before. Take out clothes to wear, have lunches ready, defrost whatever meal you will make the next day, load dishwasher and washing machine so all systems are go. The load ahead will literally feel lighter.

5. Do not multitask I repeat do not multitask. Chances are that you’re just doing lots of things badly without giving one thing your full attention and it usually takes twice as long. DO one task start to finish and then move on to the next one your not an octopus.

6. Delete apps. Facebook candy crush you know the stuff that drains all of your time. Delete them and start living your life.

7. Limit internet time. Put an egg timer on, do whatever it takes stay away from your phone. Switch the wifi off at night, get some early shut eye that way you’ll be fresher to seize the next productive day, Yay!

8. Go traditional. Use a notebook and pen if this means staying away from your phone! you can jot down things much quicker and if you’re like me when i have the phone in my hands i get distracted with texts and messages that i forget why i reached out for my phone in the first place.

9. Build a routine. Start doing things in a set order and putting things in auto pilot mode. If it’s taking you 2 hours to get out the house everyday something isn’t right. Plan the things you need everyday and have them packed and ready to go. Set things in usual places so that you don’t need to drain your brain thinking of them, they’re always there ready for you. Direct debit bills and charity donations, have groceries delivered if you can, get things done by outsourcing so that you can concentrate on the big dreams that need your full attention and energy.

10. Reward yourself. You did it! you got through a hard day of tasking chores. Have a long soak in the bath, go meet your friends, go out for a coffee indulge in an ice cream or curl up with a good movie once in a while. Carve out some me time you’ll be happier for it.

What are things that make you happy whilst being productive share your thoughts. Part two will be coming soon 🙂