5 Ways to Being Content with Yourself

Often times we reach the end of the day and wish he had done things differently in situations. Or how things had gone wrong and had we reacted in a certain way we may’ve gotten more better results. We look at others who have a laid back approach or are seemingly more happier individuals and think how are they so carefree, bubbly and positive. Why is it so hard for me to let go of things? Why do I let other people effect me so much or let situations frustrate me or even my own behaviour get the better of me?

The answer to all of these questions are that we look outwardly to peoples perfections but inwardly to our own flaws. Our eyes are glossed over by what people show us whilst expertly hiding their many woes. I am not saying people purposely live fake lives but they tend to publicise whats good in their lives rather than the bad stuff that they may not be happy that you hear about. The trick to being content is not seeking to be ecstatic all of the time as that is unachievable but to recognise that self doubt and sadness is a human characteristic. Being content is to be sad when it is required but to remain optimistic having hope and keeping an eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. See the positive regardless if you are on a up or a downward streak. Know that no one is perfect and that the struggles that you face secretly are the problems that most people struggle with too. Do not compare your struggles and peoples happiness as they will never be the same. We have our own lives to lead and we cannot lead it in others shadows.

See below my top 5 tips on how to be content with yourself today.

  1. Reflect – those who reflect on life are more content. Content is not just constantly smiling a crazy smile or maintaining a high, its going about your daily life knowing that everything is ok even if you’re going through a bad patch. Reflect on the good things that are present in your life they will far outweigh the bad stuff. In the early morning or just before going to sleep at night take 5 minutes of quiet time to reflect on your day and be grateful. You’re alive, big bonus you’re breathing,you are witnessing another beautiful day. When reflecting becomes you’re daily routine you will find that you start to reflect in any given situation right after a disaster, right after a shortcoming or after something extremely amazing happens and you appreciate and are grateful even more. Highly recommend The Five minute journal getting into the habit of seeking the daily goodness in your life. You become more in tune with your emotions and understand that good and bad times pass so cherish every moment and learn from it. Know that happy peaceful people who you are inspired by are just like you, they have good and bad days but that moment when you are getting inspired by them they may be having a particularly good moment. We are a collection of moments and emotions some good some bad the trick is to always look for the rainbow even in a storm the moment will pass hold on, it will pass.
  2. Have good friends. You will do yourself no favours if you have a bunch of friends who always bring you down. Doesn’t matter how long you may know them and they may have been good friends since childhood but its time to grow up and move on and find people who share your goals and uplift you and not bring you down. Friends may know your flaws and they are supposed to cover it up not magnify them. Having toxic friends will drain you physically spending time with them and mentally trying to reason with their negativity. Any positive changes you may under take could endanger them so they fill you with doubt and dampen your spirit or delay your goals so that you spend heedless time with them.  True friends will welcome whats best for you, will boost your productivity will be your loudest cheerleaders and help each other with reaching personal goals. 
  3. Have a hobby. You may have a day job and that could well be your dream job congratulations if you do, but majority of us are settling for a job that pays the bills. How to get the best out of life where you pay the bills plus do what you like to do, where your passion lies? Have a hobby, that may be hiking, drawing, baking what ever it is pursue it and let not your dreams go untouched. Crack away at them in your spare time you may never know that by putting away those hours in your passion it can be your dream job after all.
  4. Live a life of service. Give back to your community and build on its strengths.  Be a known familiar face in your neighbourhood for the right reasons. Be that friendly face that says hi to people in return when you’re not having such a great day others will greet you and instantly perk you up for having such caring people around. Give away things that you don’t need, don’t accumulate years of junk which can subconsciously clutter up your mind. Give away to family friends and the needy. Help someone in need. Get involved.
  5. Have your cake and eat it. Its good to have balance in your life you’re taking care of your health and body and take care of your diet. Sometimes just sometimes its good to indulge in that cake or ice-cream its all about balance not binging but n moderation. Live a life like everyday is your last and even on your last day you should live in moderation and not in desperation.

Share what makes you happy and content with your life in the comments below. I would love to know how do you make things right when the day just isn’t going the way you wanted it to.

 

Sunnah the better : 30 day challenge

Forever wanting to inject more peace into my life I’ve longed to add more sunnah into my day to day life.

What the what now?

Sunnah.

Its not the latest trending vegan lifestyle, no.

Sun-nah is the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him). The prophetic practices have been meticulously recorded and preserved for over 1400 years. Muhammad (peace be upon him) is undoubtedly the most well documented figure in history. The way he sat, talked, walked, ate, drank slept to even the way he brushed his teeth was all recorded and past down from generation to generation. Why? Because he embodied the quranic teachings, he was the best of mankind in his noble character. From the way he dealt with youngsters, to the way he spoke to world leaders, to the way he spoke to those who insulted him, to the way he took care of the elderly, sick and poor. He endured extreme hardships, orphaned at a young age, loss of successive guardians, children and wife to being boycotted facing poverty, starvation, fear, insult, doubt all the emotions that we face with today. 1400 years seems like a long time and an outdated perspective to look up to but the human being and its emotions and how we react have not changed. We as a race and our biological make up has not changed we are the same regardless if we are in the desert or on the moon. Muhammed (peace be upon him) embodied peace and compassion and the middle path in every single very human encounter he had but he had a uniquely simple and humble approach to them. His message was to convey mercy and bring people together to the oneness we all posses.

So my 30 day challenge is to practice what the Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him) left behind to humanity his everyday simple practices. To remind people what it really means to be muslim and be proud followers of his legacy.

So lets get started.

Day 1. Smile 🙂 yep its that easy. Smiling is a charity in Islam meaning you get rewarded for it. It costs nothing nor does it take up any of your time. However its impact is huge on peoples lives. So go ahead turn that frown upside down. Simples.

Day 2. Give greetings to those that you know and don’t know. Spread Salam! Salam is the islamic greeting which literally means to wish others peace. Greet your neighbours and colleagues when you see them don’t avoid eye contact, smile (see day 1) and greet there you go you’ve got this!

Day 3. Give to the needy. Go out and find someone, an organisation or a family member that needs help whether it by donation or by giving some time or expertise. Reach out to people. People need people and you might not realise it but your soul needs it too.

Day 4. Show love to your parents. It can be difficult to keep in touch with our parents due to our busy schedules but we should carve out time for things and people who should be a priority in our lives, such as our children and spouse, so to are our parents. They may not need our constant presence but shoot a text, a video a call or a visit whenever it is possible. If not daily, fix up a time weekly where you have parent catch up time. If distance doesn’t allow it then visit them monthly and if you live internationally like I do then yearly. Never let time pass that they do not feel loved and connected to your lives. Show them some love and care. Everyone knows in their heart there is love but you need to be shown also.

Day 5. Keeping family ties. Pick up the phone and call someone that I haven’t spoken to in a long time. Visit family members asking about each other keeping the bonds tight. broaden your circle an don’t just stick to your siblings and cousins reach out to other generations besides your own especially the elders as that generation and the wealth of wisdom will be lost too.

Day 6. Spend time with the youth. Sometimes we grow up and only stick to people our own age group but remember the time when you were growing up how daunting was it to speak to a grown up. Bring down these barriers, spend time with the kids your younger cousins nieces nephews or even grand kids. Your first move will be imprinted in their memory forever.

Day 7. Love for your brother what you love for yourself. Whats your most favourite thing? Mine is coffee and cookies. How about surprise someone with that thing that you love, you’ll touch their heart by thinking about them before yourself. Go ahead try it.

Day 8. Remove something out of harms way. Too often we walk around in our own bubble minding our own business. Today take a look at your surroundings and see is there anything that looks like it can be harmful, be it a messy bush that is covering a sign or creating a blind spot for drivings on the road.  Something simple as removing shattered glass from the ground or even any litter that can be a choking hazard for bird or animals seek and you shall find.

Day 9. Pray for others. Choose a person daily it might be a person passing by, pray for their well being that whatever difficulty they may be facing be taken care of. May they exceed in earnings and be happy in their lives. Next day choose someone else. This may be someone you know or you don’t know. The best place to be is someone else prayers because the listener is God. When you pray for others the angels repeat the Prayer and say may you blessed with this too how amazing is that! Create compassion for others in your heart.

Day 10. Don’t waste food. Buy only what you need and if you have bought/made excess don’t immediately throw it away, use up the leftovers for the following meal. Ok, so you can’t stand meatballs for four meals straight, how about share it amongst your neighbours? Do this when they’re still piping hot and fresh, or freeze them so that you can have it in an instant when you do feel like meatballs.

Part 2 Day 11 – 20 coming soon 

Part 3 Day 22 – 30 coming soon

 

Note: If you are wondering why do I keep repeating Peace be upon him after the Prophet Muhammed (peace be upon him)’s name. Its because as muslims we give respect to all our Quranic or biblical prophets first and foremost. Secondly as ordinary muslims we greet each other on every encounter with peace as a little prayer that we hope that we have peace and blessings in our day. Thirdly it is a little salutation and prayer to our beloved prophet and we believe that each and every salvation is delivered to him and so we like to say it abundantly by increasing his rank we are increasing ours also by way of remembrance.

And Allah knows best.