Belong. Find your People. Create Community & Live a More Connected Life.
I snapped up this ebook, as soon as I saw the title and description.
It was a calling. This book was exactly what I was looking for, right here, right now.
See I’ve been feeling like this for a while now. A sense of not fitting in. Living an Expat life you’re far removed from oldest, and closest friends, and geographically distant from family, your already existing community, your culture and your roots.
All the people and decades of infrastructure you took for granted, growing up in, suddenly that thing you’re missing, you are now responsible into building, from scratch.
We are the immigrants, that our parents were. They were removed from the people, and the land, they grew up in. They had to build, from who they were. Seeking out people with common story, maintaining those ties for years, for them to eventually become like family.
Living in a day and age where social media is thriving, but we are so removed from being social. We crave the ‘village’ that we were bought up with, but so awkward to get up and build it, carve it out, and do the work to maintain it.
As an Expat you’re forced to make new friends, and it’s a whole lot of trial and error. You find a ‘good one’ but they also move, because that’s the nature of Expat life. You always move, where the job is, or move back if job is no longer there, and uproot your connections with you.
You lose hope, and question ‘Am I going to find what I’m looking for? But the first question should be what/ who, are you, looking for?
Radha Agrawal in her book ‘Belong’ does all the brain work for you. Why you feel like you do, how this is, exactly, how you should be feeling, and what can be done about it.
It has journal prompts, where the book asks you to delve into analyzing how you feel, how people make you feel, what energies they bring and so forth. With cute little prompts that see your life, your life decisions, and your choice of company, into stark light. It helps to pinpoint, where is it that you’re going wrong? Where is it that you need more work?
Love how Agrawal, promotes a intentional life, by first becoming more self aware. Do the work inwardly first.
Belong, is a starting point, into self discovery. If you haven’t already realized who you are, and what you’re about, this is great stepping stone into unraveling your talents, and likes, so that you can focus on, what you actually want to do more of.
Each section of the book, has its own exercise, which is genuinely interactive, so you’re not left with a bunch of observances and advice, but you can make actionable steps, in crafting a life from understanding who you are, and what you really want.
Belong was singing to me. Every page I was like, hell yes! Thank God, I’m not mad, there are others who are going through, exactly what I’m going through. I’m not being extra or overly sensitive, living from one group to another, trying to seek your people, is a struggle for many.
It’s a great book, when you’re feeling stuck in a rut, and you’re wanting more clarity in your life. You maybe hanging with the same bunch of friends, you do every week and think that’s how it’s supposed to be. All the while you may be spending time with the wrong people. While your people are still out they’re waiting to be found
The book assesses your current friends, family and social circles, and plots what kind of energy you are surrounded with. It’s a beautiful eye opener, if you haven’t realized already that you are the sum of the people you hang out with. If most of the people transfer bad vibes it’s likely your energy will also be negative.
The book highlights an important factor which I hadn’t realized, that you may already know who you are, and maybe you’re confident in not wanting the crowd that is not for you. But you still crave connection, nobody is exempt from it. You cannot live a life of lonely, self acceptance.
This book will be for you if:
• You are a man or a woman.
• You want clarity in your life.
• You have come of age, you know what you want and are tired of just ‘fitting in’.
• You want more than just fake conversation, empty relationships, same old drivel and gossip every time you meet with people
• You are sick of kitty parties that have no purpose other than creating a hole in your pocket.
• You are sick of not being able to express your real feelings, afraid of being not accepted, or know the response will be negative.
• You are removed from community.
• If you have started a life over and over several times.
• If you seek like minded individuals in every crowd.
• If you have moved to a new city
• If you’ve moved to a new country
• If you’ve moved to a new school
• If you want to build a community of like minded individuals
• If you see a gap in the market that will bring benefit to more people with similar interests
Recommendation 5/5 Rating based on the below.
- Easy read
- Realistic goals
- Strong beginning, middle and end.
I received this eARC from Netgalley, in return for my honest review.
Belong by Radha Agrawal will be available from September 2018.